I cheer for people. I was raised to believe there’s enough sun for everybody ~Tracee Ellis Ross
I’m learning that my support of others won’t always be returned the way I would like it to be, but that doesn’t mean that I should stop cheering for people if I feel moved to do so.
When you lead with your heart and your best-self you’ve already put out positive energy into the universe. Releasing the expectation that good wishes be returned by the people we think should also be cheering us on with the same vigor, frees up emotional and mental energy that can be used in more productive areas of our lives.
I’m still working on this and my petty stays on alert waiting to pounce when I see that the light I celebrate in others isn’t always celebrated in me, but over the years I’ve become more forgiving of those individuals (to a point), because I’m learning to accept it as less of a reflection of me and more as a reflection of where they’re at in their own lives. Also, not everyone will love everything I do, say and/or share. It’s their right and has nothing to do with me. It’s not my job to get anyone to agree with me or like me. It’s my job to continue doing my own work in the sincerest way I know how and to genuinely support my peers in their own journey’s milestones, and achievements.
Weighing and measuring the “way to go’s”, high fives, and “You go girl’s,” we bestow on others against the ones we receive is petty and thirsty. Life is a mission, not a competition. I don’t lose out when I cheer for friends and family even if it’s not always reciprocated. Sincere expressions of love and admiration will always be a win.
Have you ever witnessed that person who ALWAYS shows up to support and/or is always uplifting their friends and family in some way but the moment that person needs the same in return friends and family are nowhere to be seen? Maybe you’re that person.
Don’t let others recklessly expect your accolades and good wishes without it ever being returned. Some people only want to be celebrated but don’t want to celebrate others -or specifically – you. While the goal is to be able to not have expectations, you don’t want to put yourself in a position where you’re always giving and never receiving. That is depleting and isn’t what human relationships are meant to be about.
If you feel like you’re always the one cheering others on without it being returned take a step back. You can still wish the best for people without being the punching bag to their jealousy and egotism. I tend to clap for people on the extreme side of self-serving and passive aggressive from afar.
Find your balance and most importantly honour your integrity.
Apologize to your body. Maybe that’s where the healing begins. ~Nayyirah Waheed…05 July 2018