Redefining Body Goals: The Journey To Accepting My Body

  Apologize to your body. Maybe that’s where the healing begins. ~Nayyirah Waheed     In my last piece, How I Find Happiness, I talked about a number of things I try to do and/or practice in order to maintain my joy during difficult times. I&#8217…

How I Find Happiness: Managing Self-Doubt, Anxiety & Life’s Uncertainties

“Once we recognize what it is we are feeling, once we recognize we can feel deeply, love deeply, can feel joy, then we will demand that all parts of our lives produce that kind of joy.” – Audre Lorde Since my return to Canada, one year ago, I…

Why Cheering For Others Doesn’t Need To Be A Contest

    I cheer for people. I was raised to believe there’s enough sun for everybody ~Tracee Ellis Ross Release Expectation I’m learning that my support of others won’t always be returned the way I would like it to be, but that doesn&#8217…

Open Letter To My 12-Year-Old Self

Dear 12-Year-old Nissa, You are perfect just the way you are. It’s okay to be sensitive. Don’t let anyone tell you that there is something wrong with you because you feel things deeply. You may feel that you are a weak person because you…

Representation Matters: Affirming My Toddlers’ Blackness Through Books

I’m working to create a space where it feels easy to include and imagine black girls and make black girls like me the main characters of our lives. —Marley Dias    Neylan at 6 months with two of her fave books – Whose Toes Are Those &amp…

Reclaiming My Time: Why I Gave Up Being A Trailing Spouse

“To face the realities of our lives is not a reason for despair—despair is a tool of your enemies. Facing the realities of our lives gives us motivation for action. For you are not powerless… You know why the hard questions must be asked. It is not altruism, it…

Makeup Bae’s: A List of My Favourite Products and Tools

“Feminism and femininity are not mutually exclusive. It is misogynistic to suggest that they are. Sadly, women have learned to be ashamed and apologetic about pursuits that are seen as traditionally female, such as fashion and makeup. But our society does not expect men to feel ashamed of pursuits considered…

A Season of Black Women Writers: Four Inspiring Non-Fiction Must Reads

“The idea is to write it so that people hear it and it slides through the brain and goes straight to the heart.” – Maya Angelou   I love reading diverse stories written by Black women. They have always made me feel less alone, more uplifted and helped to broaden…

Searching For Love In All The Right Places

I think I finally get it. My life’s purpose that is. After years of inner turmoil, mental anguish, tears and sleepless nights, I get what I’ve been put on this earth to do. *drumroll please* To love and be loved. Solving this ‘non-puzzle’ kind of feels like…

Lean In? Or Lie Prostrate?

  I’m two years deep into mommy-hood and this life transition has by far been the most intense. In one day you can literally go through every emotion there is to experience trying to navigate the world of a little human. Motherhood is often said to be many…